How every Conversation Shapes Your Leadership Journey
What if the secret to your growth as a leader is the conversations you're having right now?
By Suzie Thoraval
“Every person you meet knows something you don’t; learn from them.”
In the past few weeks, I’ve attended some wonderful end-of-year events, with more planned. I’ve also caught up with friends and have family gatherings ahead, where I’ll reconnect with cousins I only see a few times a year.
These conversations have sparked new ideas for my leadership and life. For example, at Mastermind day last week with fellow business owners, I learned new techniques for commanding presence when speaking.
A friend’s fitness regime also recently reminded me of the importance of strength training for injury-free joints.
This time of year offers great opportunities to connect with colleagues, friends, and family. While it can be daunting to walk into a room full of strangers or attend large family gatherings, I remind myself that every person we meet has the power to change us and help us grow.
When I think about this idea, a wise phrase from one of my dear uncles comes to mind: "You are the sum of every person you have ever met."
This was brought home to me earlier this year when I met an older woman randomly at the dog park. As our dogs chased each other, we got talking. She shared how she used to rush through life, caring for others but neglecting herself. She noted with a wry smile that as she got older, she had learned to set boundaries and focus on self-care.
This was just what I needed to hear in a moment where my tired brain was swimming with to-do lists and tasks I had to do for other people. Her words inspired me to try to slow down and think more often about my own needs. I was struck by the idea that the people we meet can help us grow and find balance.
Me with my dog, Gingerbread
The Power of Being Changed by Those You Meet
My uncle’s wisdom is echoed by scientists. Research in social learning, feedback, and empathy highlights the benefits of being open to others' influence. Social Learning Theory shows that we grow by observing others, while Mirror Neuron Research reveals that empathy builds emotional intelligence and enhances decision-making. Diverse perspectives also drive innovation, as seen in Mark Granovetter’s "strength of weak ties," where casual acquaintances often spark breakthroughs.
During the festive season, consider how interactions with colleagues, family, and new connections can shape your leadership and personal growth. Embrace these encounters, even when they challenge your thinking.
Benefits of Being Changed by the People You Meet
Here are some of the ways that people can change your leadership for the better:
Broadened Perspective: Every person brings unique experiences and ideas, offering new insights that help you think creatively and make better decisions.
Improved Emotional Intelligence: Interacting with people from diverse backgrounds enhances empathy and communication, helping you connect more deeply with others.
Increased Resilience: Being open to feedback and different perspectives helps you adapt, strengthening your ability to recover from setbacks.
Fostering Innovation: Engaging with diverse people exposes you to fresh ideas, promoting innovative thinking that keeps you and your team ahead.
Personal Growth: Each encounter is an opportunity to learn and grow, helping you evolve as a leader by adjusting your approach to challenges.
How do I Stay Open and Seek Out New Perspectives?
As leaders, we shape both our teams and our own growth. This season, let’s engage with those around us to encourage learning, growth, and connection.
Here are some ideas:
Ask Questions: Ask open-ended questions to learn from others’ experiences and spark new ideas.
Seek Feedback Regularly: Actively request feedback from others to gain valuable insights.
Embrace Diverse Voices: Make it a habit to engage with people from different backgrounds, industries and walks of life to broaden your perspectives and foster growth.
Practice Empathy: Listen actively and try to understand others’ viewpoints to build deeper connections.
Challenge Your Assumptions: Be open to perspectives that differ from your own and consider how they can expand your understanding.
By embracing the idea that we evolve through the people we meet, we move forward with greater wisdom, resilience, and purpose.
As you go to seasonal events ask yourself:
What’s one recent interaction where someone’s perspective helped you see things differently? How did it impact your thinking or decision-making?
How often do you seek feedback from people outside your immediate team or network? How might engaging with a broader range of voices help you grow?
When was the last time you learned something valuable from someone who had a completely different role or background than you? What did you learn?
How can you ensure you are actively creating space for diverse voices and ideas in your leadership approach?
How can you learn from people you meet and apply those insights to your leadership in the weeks ahead?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
